When in doubt, write it out….

Do you ever read something that resonates with you so deeply that, days later, you find yourself thinking about it?

I read these wise words on my flip-calendar on October 25th and I thought about them again today and felt compelled to share and write about it.

I want to beg you, as much as I can, to be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue.

These words were penned by poet Rainer Maria Rilke.  He lived from 1875-1926.

Other wise words from the poet include:

Let life happen to you. Believe me: life is in the right, always.

If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for the Creator, there is no poverty.

A person isn’t who they are during the last conversation you had with them – they’re who they’ve been throughout your whole relationship.

I just really, really love that first one though.  And I think it’s because I’ve reached an age where I feel I finally understand what patience truly is.

Every day living challenges of our patience at every turn.  We must learn to be patient with ourselves, our children, our parents/in-laws, those that hold superior public office, or how about people in front of us at the checkout line that insist on digging out two pennies to make exact change?

What I care to discuss though, and what is at the heart of this quote, are the challenges of patience we face within our own hearts.

Re-read these words again…..

….be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart…..love the questions themselves……

We punish ourselves daily for not having the answers.  We stuff away feelings that make us actually feel something, whether it be good or bad.

Wait a minute?  Good or bad?  Yes, good or bad.

Look around and you’ll find a lot of miserable souls out there that don’t feel they deserve anything better than the negative garbage that currently fills their lives.  So….shove away the good because you don’t deserve it.  Push the bad feelings away because well, it makes you feel miserable and instead go to the casino and blow hundreds of dollars or down that bottle of vodka because , for a moment, you feel ALIVE and good, right?  We all know what happens when that rush of “goodness” wears off.  We’ve all felt that in our lives at some point, although, maybe not quite to that extreme.  Self-gratification and the temptation to chase it is always there because it’s always out there.

Out there….that is the key.  Everything you need to know and the joy you seek is within you.  It’s not “out there.”  You just have to be patient enough to seek it within  yourself….taking the time to find, in your heart, the joy you seek.  And understanding and accepting that, with joy, will come sorrow.

“Life is a journey,” we always hear.  Really, it is.  No one would argue that.  I also like to think of it is a process of self-growth and evolution.

Take what you hide in your heart and bring it to the light.  Feel it, work through it it, love the process and the growth you receive, like a gift.  Ask yourself the tough questions you’ve been so scared to answer because you know, in your heart, it would shake up your world;  causing you to maybe make some difficult choices or make big changes.

…..love the questions……and make it a mission to discover, in your heart, what’s always been there……

And when in doubt, write it out.

Writing (i.e. journaling) – the cheapest therapist you’ll ever find.


About Victoria

Hi there! I'm Victoria: wife & mother of three with one pooch living in rural ND. I am a professional photographer turned writer, published author, and side-hustle entrepreneur. I dream of vacationing in Fiji and seeing Matchbox Twenty live (among other things). I firmly believe everything is "figureoutable," and if it doesn't challenge you - it doesn't change you. I also looooooooove coffee. A lot. :D

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